Articles

These pieces are where I work out, in writing, what I do clinically. They're written for the kind of reader who arrives at therapy already articulate about their patterns and is looking for something the patterns alone haven't moved. There's no required order, but a few natural starting points are below.

A few starting places

What Is Depth EMDR? — for the work in one piece

When Understanding Isn't Enough — if you've been in therapy and feel stuck

On Spirituality in My Work — how I hold meaning-making in therapy, and how I don't

How to Use Therapy in the Age of AI — what each is for, and what only the human work can offer

Nattan Hollander LMFT Nattan Hollander LMFT

The Difference Between Soothing and Avoiding

Soothing moves toward experience; avoiding moves away. Both can reduce discomfort, but they're different acts — and only one completes the loop. Why presence has to come before any real response, and why EMDR always starts there.

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